Know the Facts It's important to realize that emotionally abusive partners often know exactly what they are doing, and exactly which buttons to push.They tend to seek out vulnerable, insecure individuals as dating partners, and at the beginning of their relationships they may even treat their vulnerable partners rather well.They say they act this way because they "love you so much," when in fact the real reason they behave this way is to try to control your every move. They may have deluded themselves into thinking that they love you, but what they are doing to you is not loving behavior.Why is Emotional Abuse in Teen Relationships So Common, And What Can Be Done About It?Once again, according to Safe Youth.org, "One recent national survey found that 1 in 11 high-school students said they had been hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the past year.1 in 11 students also reported that they had been forced to have sexual intercourse when they did not want to." Emotional and Psychological Abuse When experts refer to teen dating abuse, they are not only talking about the most clear-cut examples of abuse, such as physical or sexual assault.National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) | 1-800-787-3224 [TTY] Love is Respect: 1-866-331-9474 | 1.866.331.8453 [TTY]RAINN: National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)Love is Respect provides resources for teens, parents, friends and family, peer advocates, government officials, law enforcement officials and the general public. Breakthe engages, educates, and empowers youth to build lives and communities free from domestic and dating violence.
When boyfriends try to whittle away at their girlfriends' self-esteem by making cruel or manipulative remarks, or when they try to limit or control their girlfriends' activities, or when they try to dictate what their girlfriends can and cannot wear, which people their girlfriends can talk to-and which ones they can't- these are all additional forms of emotional abuse.
In addition, if a girl has consumed alcohol or drugs and is not in any condition to give her consent, but the boy still proceeds to engage in any type of sexual activity with her, this also constitutes sexual abuse.
Physical abuse in the context of dating relationships includes punching, biting, slapping, stabbing, and any other method that one person can use to physically harm another with or without the aid of a weapon.
In other words, if no one is telling them to stop, and they are continuing to get away with their negative behavior, then what on earth would possibly motivate them to stop?
If you are a teenager who is currently being abused sexually, physically, psychologically, and/or emotionally, or if you aren't totally sure, but you think you may be in an abusive relationship, and if you have a trusted adult in your life, such as a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, mentor, or therapist, make it a point to talk to that person about what you are experiencing in your relationship.
If you don't feel that there is an adult you can safely open up to about what's going on in your relationship, then you may want to call the .