Good introductions on dating websites

So select photos that look good, but could also in some universe be reasonably understood to be you.

Relatedly: Select photos where you can actually see what you look like.

(This first sentence says nothing eye-catching about the woman and is very bland, and boring). (still, nothing thought provoking or attractive) I am very spontaneous and I love the outdoors, watching movies, dancing, and traveling. (Finally something somewhat interesting that she says about herself).

(Another cliché statement that is being used by thousands of other women) A great date can be staying at home with a movie and popcorn, or a night on the town. I made myself a promise a few years ago to take a vacation somewhere new, out of state, every year. Well, that is a little about me if you are interested say hello and we will chat. ” *********************** This profile gets a higher grade because it reflects on the writer’s character and her personality.

Keep your product’s major flaws out of the commercial.

The obvious points of picking photos are to make them (1) flattering, and (2) accurate.

And why do you, a 23-year-old, want to date someone who could technically be your father if 16 & Pregnant had existed in the 70s? And also realize that while relationships with large age differences can of course be happy and successful, there is usually something wrong with a person who refuses to engage romantically with anyone in their peer group, and instead seeks out a relationship that will involve serious differences in experience and power.

Don’t be the guy who every girl is like, “There’s something wrong with that guy.” Yes, we’ve all been burned while dating, and we all have loooooong lists of things we don’t want in a partner.

(This woman is voicing her opinion and shows her personality early on. )) You: Honest, mature, gentleman, emotionally, mentally, financially secure (“financially secure” is a bad move in a dating profile because it’s an immediate red flag to a guy that he might be dealing with a materialistic woman.) Knows how to treat a lady, ready for a long term relationship (this would sound a bit too eager or even desperate to most guys. I live on the East Coast and travel to West every week for work. (This would make the reader believe that she is not looking for anyone special, but just someone to kill time with and subdue her loneliness).

What makes any female dating profile great is the fact that it stands out from the rest of the profiles on any given online dating site. It’s not generic, neutral and overly politically correct.

It doesn’t describe you with overused adjectives such as “intelligent, compassionate, educated, and independent” and it is free of boring statements that say nothing such as “I am as comfortable staying in as staying out.” Rather than continue describing what a good profile is, I want to bring to your attention real examples of three actual dating profiles from on popular site that I rated for content.

Shirtless photos for men (or bikini photos for women) say “I vacation on the Jersey Shore, pump my fist to house music, use tons of hair gel and probably have at least one tribal / Chinese symbol tattoo.” Myspace-style chin-down eyes-up pouty-face selfies say, “I want to look pretty and am not particularly intelligent.” Far-away vacation shots say, “Have I mentioned that I travel? Use proper punctuation and make sure most of the words are spelled correctly.

I’m sure I mentioned it like 56 times in my profile, but just in case you missed it, here is me in Laos. Love it.” Think beyond “this is a cool / funny / flattering photo that I like” and ask yourself, “How is a total stranger going to view me and my life when they look at this photo? This one should be obvious, but unfortunately it’s not. The exception to this rule: You are a moron who would like to attract other morons. One very reliable red flag on online dating sites: People who list the age range of people they’ll date as significantly younger or significantly older, but not overlapping with their own.

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