So don’t whine about your lack of a love life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such bitches, and definitely don't threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty.Remember that nearly everyone likes someone who takes an interest in them. Stick to these rules, be kinda funny, try not to be a cliché machine (you love to laugh and couldn’t live without your family and friends?! ) and your profile should be at least marginally acceptable (and hopefully won’t end up here for the wrong reasons).“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.No one wants to date sad-sack, and no one wants to hear about your terrible past dating life the first time they talk to you.We’re all internet dating here – it follows that we are all single and perhaps don’t want to be.There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into OK Cupid, check their messages, and not message you back. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
When you are sending out a first message on an online dating site, what are proven, tried and tested first messages? I don't think there's going to be any one magic universal opener that will blow the doors off any and every girl. Many examples of guys putting lines up on here and within days being called out for it because every third message she receives is your own opener.. Within those categories, I've observed some patterns for success.
I know some mention of something specific on their profile would be good but the guys who are good at this must at least has some set templates that they can riff or improvise on. There's so much variation in personalities that every chic may react differently. It's the only way you separate yourself after you qualify on her acceptable looks scale. Party slut- Here's where being suggestive in your messages plays very well. Artsy- Off-beat humor works very well for this category.
You’re better off ditching the crappy, manipulative dating tactics and sending a nice, normal message.
Unless both of you make it clear in your profiles that you are on this site for sex and only sex, keep the message PG – yes, even if there’s a mention of something sexual in the person’s profile, and yes, even if you think your sexual reference is cute or funny or clever.
So respond to what’s in their profile and ask a question or two. ___If you've got your own online dating horror stories, drop them below, or submit them anonymously.