The difference is deceptively simple, but it makes a world of difference.
See, one of the fears of being inexperienced is that your potential partners will see it as a negative.
To them, dating is less of an organic experience and more of a collection of statistics, perfect builds and arbitrary rules that bear absolutely no relationship to reality.
Much like that annoying guy who’d rage quit from your DOTA session if you didn’t do things Just So, they treat dating as a series of steps that To these would-be dating Min-Maxers, you have a limited time within which to get your various firsts – your first date, your first kiss, your first sexual experience, etc.
In reality, it’s the constant fairly small; the average man has around 6 sexual partners in his lifetime and usually loses his virginity between the ages of 17 to 24.
That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.You don’t need to explain or justify it; trying to find reasons why it’s less “shameful” than others’ just reinforces the idea that there’s something shameful about it in the first place.You don’t need to explain or excuse your lack of dating experience; “I had other priorities” or “Just hadn’t met the right person” are all you need to say if pressed.If you miss that window, then you’re fucked; you’re now saddled with a permanent debuff to your dating odds that you’ll overcome.Of course, this window of opportunity bears about as much resemblance to reality as Pokemon does to animal husbandry.The assumption is that women (because this is almost always a hetero male issue) will date a man who can rock their worlds and a virgin has no chance of pleasing her.