While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.
In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.
Typically, she discloses after she's gotten to know someone.
Soon after Colleen made a profile on OKCupid she agreed to a date—just to test out the site.
From the beginning, she knew it was important to allow people to identify as queer and transgender in their profiles.
While he has dated some people through the site—it’s where he met the woman he’s seeing—he is frustrated with the limited ways transgender people are able to identify on the site, “because you don’t fit into these little boxes, or the people you’re interested in don’t fit in neat little boxes.” La Mon wasn't alone in his discontent.Mesh, which is in pre-beta, allows users to identify as male, female, transman, transwoman, or non-binary—a person who doesn't identify as male or female.Categories for sexual orientation are straight, gay, bisexual, or queer.For those who don’t disclose their trans identity online, safety and rejection are big concerns.Colleen, who asked that we not use her real name, is a 30-year-old transgender woman who has been dating online since she was a teenager.This means photos are far and away the most important part of a dating profile, and Snyder complained that cuteness isn’t necessarily “an indicator of compatibility.” Sleidi appreciated Snyder’s critique and she signed on to help him create a new dating website called Mesh.