Think I’m here only to rake the guys over the coals? I have something to say to some of the women out there, too – like those who date plain lookin guys and hand out chances like chocolates to guys they don’t find so hot once they start getting desperate for marriage.Do you seriouly not realize how this collective settling behavior perpetuates patriarchy, male entitlement, rape culture and all the other things we fight so hard against?!?In navigating these often dark, frigid, and frightening love-waters, we hope our poll helped re-calibrate your compass. When a guy who is short, fat or balding does it, it makes my skin crawl no matter how tactful he is about it. If said ugly guy doesn’t pick up on social cues that I’m not interested in getting to know him, it makes me even more uncomfortable than just him being there already does. I’m a human being, not an uggo like you, and I don’t do bestiality. Many of you men reading this will tell yourselves I’m just a b*tch and delude yourselves into thinking I’m in the minority, or that this is satire. These are my honest feelings, and I’m NOT alone in feeling this way.Like Odysseus, we longed to safely sojourn from the shrill and deadly song of the Sirens."Who am I to say what’s attractive and what’s not? Another echoed this thought: "You have a tough question here because attractiveness is entirely subjective." (Except I think we can all agree that blondes with large breasts are just about the bestest.)"I would not consider myself conventionally handsome . Anytime a guy who is perceived as the 'settled for' and not the 'settler,' you're barraged with people exclaiming to you how 'lucky' you are, and 'hold on to that' without any thought to how those backhanded compliments might be perceived.Beyond that, there's no thought into what kind of partner that babe might be. it's inevitably seen as 'your loss' when it ends." And then it hit me: maybe he's actually a cool guy?
If you want genuine love or desire from a woman, she has to be turned on by you in a sexual way.
A man truly capable of loving a woman.” "[Men who are bothered by this] simply can't imagine that things like ambition, being good natured, having a great sense of humor, family-oriented, exciting, or charismatic could be just some of the traits that led to their present relationship. People have created their own reality within their own mind frame about how the world is suppose to be when it comes to dating and popular society through media reinforces that constantly.”"I tend to think that if there is a significant difference in the degree of attractiveness between two partners, that it's one or a combination of the following factors: the less physically attractive person has an irresistible personality or way about them; the more attractive person has an emotional and/or social dependence on their less beautifully endowed partner; the sex is bangin'." beautiful, amazingly gorgeous women with this very, very average-looking guy at a bar a few weeks ago and it didn't bother me that he was significantly less attractive than them.
Personality matters more looks are important, I believe people should ideally be attracted to their partner, but I would much, much, or there typically is no interest.
I've been with girls who were beautiful and sweet, but weren't going anywhere in life . Maybe he's accomplished and intelligent and treats her with respect and like she's an actual human being and expects nothing in return? I'm 33 with a failed marriage, drunk, and alone at a bar.
Maybe he's one of those rare, selfless people who a douchebag? Maybe she likes him for who he is and not what he looks like? Maybe he just likes hot young women and she has a thing for older, paunchy guys? I clearly don't have a clue and here I am, judging people who can manage to keep their relationship together.
Books, television shows, and movies often portray less attractive guys getting a 'hot"'girl, but ultimately they objectify women as being some kind of 'prize' to be won.